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How To Not Fail As A Father

by Locke Haman

Lessons, advice & perspectives from my mistakes as a father to challenge you & hold you accountable to becoming the Hero in your family's story, not the Villain.

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Marriage Is A Team Sport

If you can’t fully commit to being a team with your wife, then your marriage is doomed to failure. My marriage proves this lesson. There were so many times when my wife or I created the struggle by viewing each other as opponents instead of teammates. We sought victory over each other instead of victory with each other. We fought against each other instead of for each other. We tried to win the argument instead of resolve the disagreement. And our marriage suffered for it. We were on the...

5 days ago • 1 min read

To all the dads with daughters… As Girl-Dads, we are in a war for our daughters' hearts & souls. That may sound a bit dramatic, but if we look a little closer, I think it's entirely accurate. The world is constantly trying to tell our daughters that they are not good enough. Our girls are being bombarded from all angles with the constant message of “You are not enough.” As Alvin Price says, “Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke...

about 1 month ago • 2 min read

Good friends do NOT accept you as you are... I know that society wants you to think "you are perfect just the way you are..." but that's just a lie told to keep us stuck. Sometimes, we just need a wake-up call. Firm but caring accountability from another man (or men) is a game-changer. This is not to shame you into the equally destructive lie: “You’ll never be good enough.”It’s to call out those who enable mediocrity by blindly accepting a man’s flaws out of “friendship.” Good friends care...

about 2 months ago • 2 min read

How Laziness Can Make You A Better Dad Laziness can get a bad rap... Yes, it's sometimes fair, but when laziness leads to building systems, it can actually help you become a better husband & dad. (When it results in sitting on your ass all day & doing nothing, it's no good to anyone...) So I guess it all depends on how you define laziness... The definition I like is: “averse or disinclined to work, activity or exertion.” Now, let's just be clear: a good dad needs to be willing and able to...

2 months ago • 2 min read

Every once in a while, I hear a question that both inspires me and frightens me at the same time. I feel a sense of deep truth in the question, but often hide from my answer because I know it’s not the answer I would want it to be. Here are 3 of these questions that all fathers should answer honestly. Just a warning though: if you’re not ready to own some of your failings as a father, this isn’t for you… Question #1 is a 2-part question. They say “A father is a son's first hero and a...

2 months ago • 3 min read

I know you love your kids, but do you ever find them INCREDIBLY annoying? Loud, whiny, bossy, demanding, dramatic... I think even the best parents have felt this way before. But what if we shifted our perspective and saw the good in what felt annoyed by? If you want to watch the YouTube video, click below, otherwise, keep on reading! For me, this thought process started a number of years ago. I was explaining to one of my daughters what it meant to think critically, to think for herself. As I...

2 months ago • 2 min read

My wife and I recently took the family to spend almost a week at the beach. While two of my daughters were playing on the giant seawall rocks, I had a realization about the way a husband should show up for his wife and a father for his daughters… If you want to watch the YouTube video, click below, otherwise, keep on reading! Watching the ocean pound away at the rocks reminded me of how a father should show up for his daughter, and a husband should show up for his wife. Let me explain a bit:...

2 months ago • 2 min read

There is one phrase that completely changed my relationship AND my parenting... It sounds too simple to be true. It sounds like an oversimplification or a dramatic, click-bait kind of statement to make. But it’s not. It really did change everything. If you want to watch the YouTube video about this phrase, click below, otherwise, keep on reading! “I love you more than I need to be right.” This one phrase completely changed the way I looked at how I was acting with my wife AND my kids. The...

2 months ago • 3 min read

I’ve made a lot of mistakes as a dad... If I boiled down over a decade of parenting mistakes and the lessons learned, this is the cheat sheet that I would send back to my younger self… If you want to watch the YouTube video of these lessons, click below, otherwise, keep on reading! 1. They will follow your example, not your advice. And they are always watching... The “Do as I say, not as I do” attitude doesn’t work. It never has. If you expect respect from them but lose your temper on others,...

2 months ago • 3 min read
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