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How To Not Fail As A Father

Good Friends Do NOT Accept You As You Are...

Published about 2 months ago • 2 min read

Good friends do NOT accept you as you are...

I know that society wants you to think "you are perfect just the way you are..." but that's just a lie told to keep us stuck.

Sometimes, we just need a wake-up call. Firm but caring accountability from another man (or men) is a game-changer.

This is not to shame you into the equally destructive lie: “You’ll never be good enough.”
It’s to call out those who enable mediocrity by blindly accepting a man’s flaws out of “friendship.”

Good friends care enough to NOT accept you as you are.

Good friends love you as you are...
And they hold you to an expectation of growth.
They push you to become better.

Good friends know there should be a part of you hungry for more... And they'll hold you accountable to finding it.

Good friends know that needing help doesn't make you a failure.
They know thinking that needing help makes you a failure is what makes you a failure.

Good friends recognize your successes today.
And encourage you to do even better tomorrow.

Finding this type of men can be tough. The world has done a good job conditioning this type of accountability out of us.

Be a nice guy.
Don't rock the boat.
Nobody's perfect.
It is what it is.

You've heard 'em all.

The world needs more men who will call each other out, who will rock the boat & hold each other to a higher standard.

If you don't have this kind of men around you, you may want to learn more about our Men's Groups here.

These groups are an opportunity to get around a small band of men in an environment of brotherhood & accountability. Men who will NOT accept you as you are, but instead encourage you to grow into an uncommon man, husband & father.

Here's how the groups work:

  • weekly 90 minute calls
  • guaranteed small group (max 10)
  • group chat
  • structure & processes to dig deeper inside yourself
  • consistent opportunities to share current struggles
  • support & encouragement
  • accountability from other men who care about you
  • clear action steps to move you forward
  • access to me between calls

If this is missing from your life, learn more & apply for one of the groups here.

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P.S. When you're ready, there are 3 ways that I can help you:

  1. Book a FREE 45-Minute "Power Session" Trouble shoot, get some outside perspective on what you're struggling with, ask for advice or learn more about 1-on-1 coaching & the Men's Groups... This session is FREE with no strings attached. No hard-close sales pitch.
  2. Apply for one of the Men's Groups: Join a small group of men forming an environment of brotherhood & accountability to grow into uncommon men, husbands and fathers.
  3. Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching: Focused, personalized 1-on-1 attention and accountability to go deep on your inner journey with an experienced guide. Firm but caring accountability from another man is a game-changer.

How To Not Fail As A Father

by Locke Haman

Lessons, advice & perspectives from my mistakes as a father to challenge you & hold you accountable to becoming the Hero in your family's story, not the Villain.

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