Lessons, advice & perspectives from my mistakes as a father to challenge you & hold you accountable to becoming the Hero in your family's story, not the Villain.
Marriage Is A Team Sport
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If you can’t fully commit to being a team with your wife, then your marriage is doomed to failure. My marriage proves this lesson. There were so many times when my wife or I created the struggle by viewing each other as opponents instead of teammates. We sought victory over each other instead of victory with each other. We fought against each other instead of for each other. We tried to win the argument instead of resolve the disagreement. And our marriage suffered for it. We were on the brink of divorce. I wrote a post for Instagram called “8 Steps I Took To Turn My Marriage Around.” The second step, and one of the most pivotal, was “Commit to being a team.” (If you want to read the whole post on IG, click here) The decision to view ourselves as a team changed our entire relationship. If you’re operating as a team, you’re not looking to cut each other down or “win” an argument. You’re looking to build each other up and resolve the conflict. If there needs to be criticism, it’s constructive, not scathing and cruel. If there needs to be correction, it’s loving and productive. It’s not you vs. your wife, it’s you and your wife. Remember: “There is no challenge strong enough to destroy your marriage as long as you are both willing to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other.” If you want more perspective on this, you might enjoy Episode 101 of our podcast called "What's Best For The Marriage Isn't Always What's Convenient..." P.S. When you're ready, there are 3 ways that I can help you:
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How To Not Fail As A Father
Lessons, advice & perspectives from my mistakes as a father to challenge you & hold you accountable to becoming the Hero in your family's story, not the Villain.
50% of marriages end in divorce. We’ve all heard this statistic so often that it’s easy to brush off. With repetition, it’s easy to tune it out and not consider the implications. And of those who do think about it, most don’t think it applies to them. I know that when I got married, it certainly didn’t feel like I was gambling on a coin flip… Let’s add some additional info into the mix and present the math a bit differently… Yes, 50% of marriages end in divorce. In the book You Can Be Right...
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If you’re still struggling as a dad, it ISN'T because you haven’t read the right book, taken the right class, or watched the right documentary.It’s because you haven’t implemented what you've already learned. Have you ever looked at another dad who seemed to have it all together: happy wife, flourishing kids, successful life and wondered “What’s he got that’s so different than me?”The answer is one single, simple little thing… Guy Kawasaki put it as “Ideas are easy. Implementation is hard.”...